A short definition of Unhappiness is something which you would wish to un-happen. In other words, you are not happy with the results/consequences of something.

Is this possible? Can history be changed? Are there regrets? Do you ever wish you had done something differently?

If it happened a second ago or years ago, history cannot be altered.

You can do things differently from now on, starting this minute. But you cannot undo what has been done. You can apologize perhaps. But you need to forgive yourself and others and move on.

The dictionary says the definition of Unhappiness is sad, wretched, sorrowful, ill-chosen.

I think we can all agree on that.

So what then? You must deal with the consequences, of course. But ruminating on the past can only get you the dictionary’s definitions of emotions that are not only unproductive, they are counterproductive. The more you think about something that has happened, the less you are in the present and unable to look forward to your future.

You need to ask yourself if you are Happy or Unhappy. If it is the former, congratulations! Keep up the good work! However, if it is the latter, regardless of the reason (no matter how justified you feel about it), you know you are STUCK.

It’s like Brer Rabbit and the tar baby. The more you fight with it, the more stuckered up you get!

Do you want to stay all stuckered up? It is your choice, after all.

It is like the vines that kept Harry Potter and his two friends all tied up — the more they struggled, the tighter they got. When Hermione realized what the vines were, she relaxed and fell through the tangle to the floor below, as did Harry. Hermione had to use light to get Ron freed.

We also need the light of understanding to free us from whatever we are stuck in. Seeking the light is the first step in the process. It will always come to anyone who is truly seeking it.

Bless you on your journey!