F is for Forever
E is for Evading
A is for Another
R is for Reality
Forever Evading Another Reality
Does this acronym speak to you? It explained a lot to me in my life and in how others experience FEAR.
The worst part of FEAR is that it is immobilizing, whether it is real (Is that a bear up ahead?) or an illusion (all the “What if’s” you can think about).
Fear always has a companion, WORRY. These two serve to make one’s imagination run wild. The more you concentrate on what you do not want to happen, the more these two become a driving force in your decisions.
Question: Why would one consciously put so much effort into something you do NOT want to happen when you could use that same energy to be constructive, formulating a better outcome?
Do you feel “stuck” in a situation that is harmful to you, your personal growth, your life? Is it because of FEAR and WORRY? These two are thieves that steal your potential good from you.
ANSWER: Only you can take action to make a better choice. You have to look at your daily life and see what you need to change.
FEAR and WORRY create a vortex which leads to nowhere. Are you willing to keep it going? How does it serve you?
If it does not help you to create a new synergy with a better goal, you are simply marking time.
Time is the one thing you cannot buy back. No amount of effort will bring you more of it. Life is so very short. Each moment needs to be spent wisely and well in lieu of languishing in a “Woe is me!”
Your history is just that: History, as in gone, as in cannot be changed. Each second becomes history, quickly.
Are you willing to keep spinning your wheels, or do you want more? If you do, now is the time to begin it.
The Chinese have a saying, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”
Are you willing to look for a step towards a new beginning? Exit the quagmire of quicksand and begin anew. You have the power. Use it.
God’s blessings upon your journey. Remember that destinations are good to aim for, but enjoy each moment of your NOW.
Yes, it is life lessons taught by Eeyore, Tigger, and Pooh. You see, it is all a matter of choices, ones that we exercise every day, every minute that we live. We choose how we react to each incident in every day.
Eeyore is depressed. Let’s face it. No matter what happens, he chooses the negative perspective. Things go downhill from there.
Tigger, on the other hand, is the ultimate optimist. He is full of life and yes, bounce. He is like a freshly-opened bottle of champagne. He approaches it all from a cup-overflowing attitude, ready to enthusiastically go forward, no matter where it leads him. He is not guilty of thinking too much or planning ahead. That sometimes gets him into bad situations.
Pooh is a true example of balanced living. When he is hungry, he hunts up his honey jar and eats till he is full. He thinks about things, but not overmuch. He is just where he is. He is actually living in the NOW.
These are characters from the children’s stories of Winnie the Pooh. Yet you will meet them in some form every day of your life. Perhaps one of them is you. You just get to choose which one.
I like to think that I am Pooh with a pinch of Tigger: That is, choosing balanced living in the NOW, but with great enthusiasm. I am definitely a glass hall-full kind of gal. Yes, I have lived through my Eeyore times, including the missing tail incident, feeling a sense of loss about people and things that were not part of my existence any more. I am certainly familiar with Tigger, just bouncing into life without regard to consequences. As I have aged, I now choose to be Pooh/pinch of Tigger, which is the best of all.
How about you? Which character type are you at present, and which would you most like to become? It is your choice with every incident that occurs to you daily. Are you willing to make a different choice?
God’s blessings upon your journey!
This poem comes from Jan Phillips, The Living Kindness Foundation (858-571-1417), http://www.janphillips.com:
Instead of rosaries and litanies
I will make every small move
a mindful one
every exchange a kind one
Instead of lighting a candle
I will light the way for someone
stand with a friend facing the dark
hold my torch like an umbrella
over both our heads
Instead of dropping coins in a collection box
I will clean out my closets and
empty my cupboards
giving away all that I no longer need.
Instead of kneeling in a confessional
to admit wrongdoings
I stand and confess my unabashed love
for all my soul mates and family of friends
I confess to an unbearable joy
at the sounds of spring
the sight of a redwood
the feel of a kitten’s fur on my neck.
Instead of processing to the altar
to receive communion
I call this earth my altar
and my intimacy with her creatures
the bread and wine of my life.
Instead of saying “I am not worthy”
I say let me live up to the challenge
let me remember I am One with What Is,
I do not need redemption,
nothing is wrong.
Instead of calling for help from a faraway God,
I sit in silence and feel the roar
of creation churning in my cells.
Instead of waiting for a priest to come
anointing the passages of life and death
I don the vestments of service and love,
I stand with others in a circle of trust.
We raise the chalice in a toast to earth,
we make the water holy with our humble hands,
we baptize ourselves as redeemers of peace,
servants of unity.
Instead of waiting for the world to turn,
we become its revolution
we spin new webs, build new cogs
with our feet in today
and our minds on tomorrow.
Instead of the old,
we bow to the Now
and turning within,
we create the new.
This has so many worthwhile suggestions, I wanted to pass it on.
God’s blessings on your journey!
I often ask myself, “What do I choose to be today: bud, blossom, or withered stem?
The thoughts and feelings I dwell on will determine my choice:
The bud is my tomorrow…
The withered stem is my yesterday…
The blossom is NOW — this moment.
The choices I make today will determine what buds are made tomorrow.
Out of the cocoon of my yesterdays
comes what is happening today.
Today, I can choose once again to be reborn
into a new sense of awareness.
Again, I ask myself, “What will I choose?”
What do you want to choose?
Would you rather cling to those withered stems,
refusing to let go because of some worth you attached to them?
Could they ever again produce a bud or blossom?
Remember the good those stems once brought to you,
and choose to begin today to look for buds and blossoms.
They are all around you, if you but look.
They come in all colors, shapes, and sizes.
Widen your horizons and focus!