There is a Divine Polarity to all of life. Magnets have positive and negative poles. Most of our learning comes to us in that manner. We find out what we do not want after we get it, and thereby learn what we really do want and need. Sounds like an oxymoron, doesn’t it?
Some examples are:
Joy vs. Sadness
Truth vs. Lies
Peace vs. Chaos
Beauty vs. Ugliness
Life vs. Death
Love vs. Hate
Light vs. Darkness
Laughter vs. Tears
Good vs. Bad
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone, and, after it is over, said to yourself, “Well, I’ll never do that again! I will change my choices. I will ask more questions. I will be able to see that quality in someone else before I get involved.” Yet, sometimes history repeats itself?
We learn by bumps in the road, apparently, as a species.
I love the Pushmi-Pullyu in the Doctor Dolittle series. I have found that life is not all one thing or all another. It is usually a mixture of both polarities. The questions is: Can you separate them out clearly enough to be able to change your choices?
Add in the idea that rarely is anything simple. Usually, it is some of each. Whether it be a job, relationships, raising children, or any other topic that comes to mind. I personally know people who stay in a bad relationship because they have become vested in it–stuff rules as do habits. So they stay in the same old toxic atmosphere year in and year out. You can say the same for a job. Vesting dictates because one cannot afford a lower wage or whatever it takes to make a change. Raising children has its joys and its heart aches because these are little beings with an idea of how they want life to be and seek it out at their level, which may not be the wisest course. In short, simplicity is difficult, if not impossible, to find. That does not mean that one should not seek it. It only means that it is a gem of great price and should be sought after with due diligence.
There are positive aspects of all the above. Having been in a bad marriage or relationship, one can then seek more wisely to find a mate who is more compatible. If one is unhappy with the workaday life they have created, for whatever reason, one can seek that which will make them happier. Some Wall Street workers quit that life style and go to the country, finding a different way to live. Some go to college so they can change their resumes. In short, one can seek that which will give him/her a more positive balance in living.
Life is not like walking a tight rope without a safety net. Mankind can learn, grow, and change at will. Fear keeps us from doing that. It has been said that Fear of the Unknown is the greatest reason for not seeking a better answer. What one knows is better than looking for a challenge. The sameness of daily living is secure, no matter what the Happiness Quotient is.
I have been fortunate because I have accepted the challenges and sought Change and Balance in Living. I know what I want my life to look like. I have had to learn Forgiveness of myself and others in my journey. I have never thought that I would rather live alone than try to find that certain someone who will be my Best Friend for the rest of my life, someone I could grow old with, and someone who will be on the other end of this relationship. After all, relationships are TWO-WAY STREETS, not one-way. If one person is giving all the time while the other is taking all the time, no Happiness Quotient can be found. I have said that relationships are like a waltz, and I would rather dance through life with my partner than have somebody who is out of synch and not on the same page. I have been most fortunate to find my Best Friend. I would wish the same for you.
I started this article with many positive qualities which I consider necessary for my life. I endeavor to achieve my balance with them in some way, every day. I look for them. I accentuate their presence in my life. Instead of dwelling on the negatives, which are also present daily, I look for some way to lighten the day with laughter and the other ideas.
How about you? Are you willing to look at your Happiness Quotient and seek new ways to find Balance in Living? You will find that it is worth the time and effort to think about, seek, and find. Even if your life is good, it can always be better. Are you interested?
May your journey be blessed in every way. 🙂
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This poem was written by James Dillet Freeman when he was a young man for all soldiers of WWII. It is a favorite of mine, and I begin each day with this prayer:
The Light of God Surrounds me…
The love of God enfolds me…
The Power of God protects me…
The Presence of God watches over me…
Wherever I am, God is.”
This is the shorter version, which many people are familiar with. I usually change the “me” to “us” because I am praying for all of my loved ones; hence, the last line is, “Wherever we are, God is.”
The longer version goes like this:
“The light of God surrounds me…
The Love of God enfolds me…
The Power of God protects me…
The Presence of God watches over me…
The mind of God guides me…
The Life of God flows through me…
The laws of God direct me…
The power of God abides within me…
The Joy of God uplifts me…
The Strength of God renews me…
The Beauty of God inspires me…
Wherever I am, God is.”
I find great comfort from this poem. Sometimes my mind just stays in the problems that I see in my own world as well as the world at large, both personal and loved ones’ worlds, just going round and round. I have to remind myself that I need to move my FOCUS to the ANSWER. It is perfectly obvious that there is no resolution to the issues involved unless one moves to an answer-seeking posture. I am not talking supplication here (as in begging to take some problem away). It has been said that “The way out is the way through.” That means that we are asking for our highest good as well as that for our loved ones. If we know specifics in the answer, we can look to them; however, it can limit the answer. But the generic “highest good” works very well, as does wrapping whoever we are concerned about in White Light, which is the highest God there is.
I had a friend whom I told the White Light idea to before she left on a trip. During that road trip, there was an accident that was imminent. She immediately wrapped them in White Light, and the accident was avoided. She knows the White Light saved them as nothing else could have.
It has been said that “Ye have not because ye ask not.” In Matthew 7:7,8, it says, “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: For every one that asked receiveth, and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.”
This is talking about the ANSWER, which is a change of FOCUS. In our loving concern, especially for loved ones, we get stuck in the problem and chaos. We WORRY and fret, perhaps even shed tears. In the end, one must turn them, the problem, and our concern and worry over to God. We have to LET GO AND LET GOD do what is best. That is a tall order.
Are you willing to change your focus? Are you willing to give True Prayer a try? It means that you have to pray believing. Can you do that?
If you do, it will change your life and the lives of your loved ones. I can promise you that. God’s blessings be upon you, every minute of your day!
When sad things happen along the way,
I have to stop and ponder
So I can return to the wonder
Of the majesty of Life.
Sometimes…when tears fill my eyes
And my heart can feel the sighs,
I have to lift up my spirit
Because the mundane has stolen my joys…
Over a trifle of no importance.
Sometimes, when my feet are leaden,
My body weighs heavy from sadness,
Laughter beckons me with a smile:
“Follow me,” she says,
And I do, so willingly.
Sometimes, the sun breaks out from behind the clouds
Of confusion and despair,
Lighting my way along the path
To a profusion of colors and scents
In my garden of Peace.
The flowers that grow there
Grow nowhere else in this world.
One sniff brings Heaven,
Along with the sight of the Beauty
That guides me along my way.
Refreshed, I return to my world.
I hear the birds singing…
My being is winging
Its way aloft
To Higher pursuits more fitting.
No longer a broken-winged bird,
Caged in my unhappiness.
I am free to flit and float
In the sunlight,
Singing my song.
Drifting along to a happier sound am I…
No longer tied to the woes and agonies.
They are but a moment in Reality.
I do not feel bound to them anymore.
Sometimes, I am Spirit, and It is enough.
Are you willing to release
whatever is weighing you down
so you, too, can soar?
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